And quite appreciative at that. We are also thinking excerpt. Cool? Word.
Jared Rypkema: A common thread that struck me is your desire for
your boys to at some point understand you as much as you’ve tried to
understand them. Do you have a hope that one day they’ll read these
pieces and understand a little more about you as a person?
Ben Tanzer: It’s funny, but I’m not sure that was a conscious thread
at all. Which points to a couple of things. You can discover a lot when
you write about yourself, that you might not really understand to
otherwise be a constant thread in your own life. But more importantly,
that said thread is important to you at all, which in this case it
So yes, that is my hope, and yes, I hope that the nuances I found
myself exploring in these pieces explain things, decisions, or lack of
decisions, shortcomings and obsessions, that may never have the
opportunity to be discussed or broached. And yes, this is also a topic
that I come back to again and again as a writer as well – how it is we
make sense of things as we battle confusion, feel trapped by our
self-imposed limitations, and engage in endlessly poor communication.
So, again, I guess I do hope for this, though I also hope they see
this collection as one big love letter to them, because that I was
definitely conscious about when I wrote it.